‘But what are you doing for YOU Kerry?’ This was the burning question my PT asked me not so long ago.. The answer was probably absolutely nothing. I was caught in a working 40 hours per week, socialising, marathon training, leading at club, organising a 5K for charity and strength training at the gym. I work in HR and I’ve got to be brutally honest, I was a bit ‘peopled out’.
Sometimes you burn out before its too late and I had lost a bit of my spark. I was just mentally and physically exhausted. I can’t remember the last time I sat on my sofa and just did nothing and relaxed.
It’s essential at times to remember that we all have choices and it’s OK to be selfish sometimes. I try to lead running groups at club at least once a month. This month, I’ve just not been able to manage it. Do I feel guilty – absolutely. It’s so easy to feel the tug of war on expectations, challenges, commitments, technology, family, friends and work. But do you need it all to just STOP for a moment?
Dr Seuss summed it up beautifully: “How did it get so late so soon?” he wrote ” It’s night before it’s afternoon. December is here before it’s June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon?”
This Friday night, I have a date, with myself. I’m going to watch a good film, have a bubble bath, light some candles and incense, turn off all social media and just RELAX. When was the last time you did that?
I’ve thought about how I can slow my pace down whilst juggling all these balls in the air and from next week, I’m going to attempt the following;
- Breathe – There are a variety of breathing techniques that can help you slow down and enjoy your life. Just by breathing in your nose, hold and breathing out of your mouth
- Marley cuddles – There’s a reason why my dog is my best friend. Marley brings me so much joy to my life as well as unconditional love and companionship.
3. Just ‘be there’ – being in the present. Having gratitude, listening, being appreciative – this can be achieved by yoga, and meditation.
4. Less is more – Spring clean anyone?
5. Drive Slower – I constantly race from A to B and need to slow down and become less frustrated with other drivers. We are all guilty of it.
6. Saying ‘No’ – sometimes having more time for you means saying no from time to time.
What do you do to relax? How do you know when you just need a ‘time out?’
May your miles be long , your weekend relaxing and your injuries few.